On Saturday I was in a car accident. I was rear ended on the highway. This has reinforced for me many things. In no particular order:
- My car is a tank and I was very glad that I put safety as a main criteria when purchasing it.
- My body is a delicate ecosystem. While my spirit and will power are strong, my body is not – despite doing lots of exercising/strength training.
- Concussions are a big deal and really impact every aspect of your life.
- I have a lot of fantastic people in my life. Starting with my boyfriend who has been fantastic with everything, but also including my family, friends, my Jewish community, and my workplace.
- I am super grateful to have worked hard enough to be in a role where I could work from home as needed, but also that it isn’t a big deal to take the time I need to heal and not have it negatively impact my pay (and thus causing other areas of stress.)
I am sure there is more. I am making a point to tell people thank you as often as I can. I hope to remember these lessons, so that once I heal and the tables are turned that I can give back in service and kindness to those who need it.
Today was a bad day. I wanted to call in sick today but felt guilty due to an important meeting that afternoon. Nothing went according to plan. Nothing worked. And everything just heaped on.
Luckily, I just kept plugging. Even more luckily, I had a trusted person help me out.
A while ago I was given some advice from a coach that I should find people whom I can give permission to give honest feedback and continue to foster that. Hearing things, even if I may not want to, can be invaluable.
That was exactly one of the golden moments today. In a meeting that was 100% virtual someone was really sharp with me. Knowing I was off, I sent a side message to another person in the meeting asking if it was me or them? I was very grateful that they said I was a bit sharp first. I thanked them for their honesty and made an effort to improve.
Afterwards I asked them if my efforts showed. Unfortunately I had to log off before they could respond, but the fact that there were no further moments I think shows that there was a positive shift.
I remember from my studies long ago about the (probably now antiquated) purple tail parable. It boiled down to someone had a purple tail and people kept telling them about it, but it didn’t sink in until they had been told seven times. Something psychological about that 7th time is when we finally hear what we are being told. I think paying attention to what we’ve been told – hopefully sooner than 7 times! – will help us in our relationships and career.